The Real Reason Your Best People Are Leaving (And It’s Not About the Money!)
Let's talk about something that's costing businesses a fortune but nobody wants to admit - people aren't leaving your business because of money, they're leaving because of your culture. And yes, I'm going to be straight with you about this!
I had coffee with someone recently who just left their "dream job" after only six months. Great salary, awesome benefits, unlimited leave (don't get me started on that one!), but they were miserable. Why? Because their manager was toxic, communication was non-existent, and the company values were just pretty words on a wall.
Here's what's really happening in businesses with culture problems:
The Silent Spiral
Monday morning dread becomes Tuesday morning dread, becomes all-week dread
People start taking "mental health days" that are really "I can't stand this place" days
Your best performers are updating their LinkedIn profiles (you know they are!)
Water cooler chat becomes therapy sessions about how bad things are
The phrase "that's just how things are done here" is used daily
But here's the thing - culture isn't some fluffy, feel-good concept that you can fix with a pizza party or a foosball table. It's the very air your business breathes. And if that air is toxic, people will find somewhere else to breathe!
Let me share some truth bombs about why your culture might be pushing good people away:
Leadership Disconnect: Your leaders are too busy "being important" to actually lead. They're in back-to-back meetings all day but haven't had a genuine conversation with their team in weeks. Your people aren't mind readers - they need direction, feedback, and actual human connection!
Values Vacuum: You've got values plastered all over your walls, but nobody lives them. If "integrity" is your value but you're letting that toxic high performer get away with murder because they bring in the money, guess what? Your real value is profit at any cost.
Growth Desert: People want to develop, learn, and progress. If the only growth opportunity in your business is waiting for someone to leave or retire, you're going to lose your ambitious top performers.
The Burnout Factory: You celebrate people who work 60-hour weeks and answer emails at midnight. Newsflash - that's not dedication, that's dysfunction! Your culture is burning people out, and they're going to flame out or check out.
So what can you actually do about it? Here are some real, actionable steps:
Get Real About Feedback
a) Create safe spaces for honest conversations
b) Actually listen to exit interviews (better yet, do "stay interviews")
c) If people aren't telling you what's wrong, they don't trust you enough to be honest
Make Leadership a Priority
a) Train your managers to be actual leaders
b) Give them time to lead (hint: leadership isn't done from behind a laptop)
c) Hold them accountable for their team's wellbeing, not just their targets
Live Your Values
a) Make tough decisions that align with your values, even when it costs you
b) Recognize and reward behaviors that demonstrate your values
c) Be consistent - culture isn't a part-time job
Create Growth Pathways
a) Invest in development (and not just technical skills)
b) Create clear career progression frameworks
c) Give people projects that stretch them
Check Your Reality
a) Walk the floor regularly
b) Sit in different areas of the business
Have lunch with your team (and actually listen)
Remember, people don't leave cultures they help create. They leave cultures that are inflicted upon them.
The good news? Culture can be changed. But it takes real commitment, not just good intentions. It requires leaders who are willing to look in the mirror and admit that maybe, just maybe, they're part of the problem.
Start today. Because while you're reading this, your best people are probably updating their resumes.
Let's make workplaces worth staying for!